8 Ways You Might Be pushing Him Away
Love, Life, Relationships
August 26, 2018
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Pushing away our men is
more common than we girls know. Sometimes we feel as if we are doing the right
thing or taking a little charge of the relationship. Let me tell you though, it
doesnt always work. Men are are quite easy to lose interest when they feel a
girl is taking the wrong paths to making a relationship work. When it becomes
too much for them it really becomes enough.
I wouldn’t want you to
be that girl who’s pushing her man away so with these 8 pointers I hope it will
help to raise a warning sign for you…. Just incase!
Lurking Too
Much
It can become too much
when you’re constantly checking his social media too see his latest posts, who
commented on his pictures, whose pictures he like etc. It is good to see once
in a while what your man’s social media behaviour
look like but it’s not healthy to let it become a daily and nightly routine for
you as much as it won't do justice for the relationship.
Over
Questioning His Actions
Girl, he’s not
necessarily lying all the time. As much as people can lie, sometimes they can
also tell the truth. It’s one thing when you’re dating a man for a while who lies
constanly and not much has changed over the period; but if that’s not the case for
you, you should take it a bit easy on him.
Too Clingy
Men likes a little time and space to breathe. Allow him to
have times where he’s able to have some new atmosphere with friends/family or
even with himself. You can even become clingy with your texting
behaviour towards him. If you sent him a text at 6:00 pm, it doesnt mean he will see/read it at 6:00 pm. Be patient. If you’re dating a genuine man
you have nothing to worry about, I bet he will explain in the soonest and best time he can.
Not Doing
Your Part In the Relationship
As I often say to my
boyfriend, ”Do your part and I will also do mine”. It’s like a good
relationship motto when you think about it. If you want your man to be fair
towards you then no doubt he will expect fairness back from you. Not doing your
half of trying to maintain a good relationship is one of the easiest ways to
push him away. Keep your eyes open for that.
Being the
First to Read 90% of His Messages
I could preach on this
point but I’ll take it easy. A lot of us girls dont realise that our man’s
phone is our man’s phone. Hence, it means that some privacy towards it is due. As
i said…SOME. But overdoing it is an easy way for a man to lose his patience.
Don’t be the one jumping hurdles with your man to make it to the finish line to read a
single text that came on HIS phone. If you really would like to know who or
what the message is about, there are many polite ways in which you can ask him.
Expecting
Him to Read Your Mind
I am guilty of this point but
I must agree that girls will be girls. I remember when my relationship started
out I was falling into this reading my mind thing with my boyfriend. Luckily,
he made me become aware of it before it got too far. Ladies, men aren’t mind
readers so don’t expect them to read your mind if you feel some way about a
particular situation. Read you own mind towards him instead and your
relationship will get somewhere instead of you pushing him away. By doing this you’re
allowing him to understand you and your situation better.
Not Able
to Communicate Well
A man can and does value the abiltiy to communicate with him. Communication and mind reading relates similary in
the way in which you could possibly push him away.
Not Showing
Interest In What He Values
Imagine you telling your man about your hobbies or the things
that excites you and he prefers to talk about or do something. Yes, it’s the
same for him if he would try to show you his interest and you turn a deaf ear or a
blind eye. Try to have some understanding to what matters the most to him. A relationship
needs this as much as you need to understand the real sides to the man you’re
in a relationship with.
If any of these pointers raised a warning sign for you then
you have some work to do. Instead of pushing him away why not try to push him
even closer towards you?
