Thursday, 8 November 2018

What Women Look For In/On A Man The First Time They Meet. (Can This Affect Long Term Relationships?)

November 08, 2018 5 Comments
what women look for in a man when they first meet

 It’s a part of human behaviour that there is most often something(s) specific that we look for in or on a person of interest the very first time we meet. Personally, I know the things I look for when I meet a guy for the first time who could possibly become a partner. These things include; a warm personality, genuineness, a sense of life, a sense of humour and humbleness. Whereas sometimes I can just go with the flow and try not to notice too much and see what will pop out naturally from him towards me. 


 This week I got a bit curious to hear from 12 other women on my Instagram what they also look for in or on a guy the first time they meet. So I set up an Instagram poll asking the question and their responses came as follows.


*I have decided to keep these women anonymous in respect of their privacy.


Girl #1: ”How generous and sincere he is”

Girl #2: ”Sense of Humor”

Girl #3: ”Compassion, his ability to care for the people around him”

Girl #4: ”Proper teeth”

Girl #5: ”Ambitionnnn”

Girl #6: ”I listen to the way he addresses me and his attire”

Girl #7: ”How he carries himself and how he speaks”

Girl #8: ”$$$$”

Girl #9: ”Consistency. If he’s consistent with his words, way or                    
            actions”

Girl #10: ”Looks and dress of sense”

Girl #11: ”Their intelligence, life goals and ambition”

Girl #12: ”Potential”


Related Article: 15 WaysTo Know That A Guy Likes You 

 
Now these are all great answers. Everyone has their own values and what they wish for in or on a man. As you can tell from these answers some girls are more on the physical side, some on the personality side and on the monetary side. 
 
 The Point of this post is to highlight that most often what women tend to look for in/on a man is most often the result of the type of relationship made with that man. A humorous man forms a humorous relationship. An ambitious man encourages an ambitious relationship. And if you entered a relationship with a man solely because of looks then more than likely you’ll end up with a cute man who probably does not have or know how to bring anything else to the table.


Related Article: Does ThePerfect Relationship Exists?


 For a fulfilling and long-lasting happy relationship, try to search for your soul mate the way you would probably search for the perfect pair of heels that suits YOU. One that fits, one that’s comfortable that you feel like you love and could wear everyday. 



As the quote says

First Impressions Lasts Forever

A quote we must keep in mind.




 
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Sunday, 4 November 2018

How To Get Rid Of Dry Skin Naturally In Winter

November 04, 2018 2 Comments
dry skin during winter


Winter is upon us and oh how I am not anticipating the chappy lips,  dry skin and scalp that comes with it! We all know how frustrating this can be. The constant itching and dry, dead skin falling off when you itch, uhk! 

 Most times we try to combat the dryness with an easy fix by running to the supermarket to grab some commercialized lotion. Sad thing is, most often the chemicals that are inside these products often tends to dry out the skin even more, leaving you more frustrated and your skin becomes scaly.

 Sometimes depending on how dry your skin is, you may also turn to a dermatologist/doctor for help and she/he would prescribe a cream or gel to fix this matter. Yes those can work too, but what happens when you run out  and have to visit the doctor again to just get a prescription for a cream etc. It all just seems so daunting and a little costly.

 Well, I am here to help you solve dry skin problems in a healthy and possibly cheaper way.

Using natural things for the body is never a wrong choice and you may be surprised how they work more effectively than the store bought cancerous chemicals. Here are my tips..



Raw Shea Butter
 It’s almost as if I could write only shea butter as the only recommendation because this stuff is GOOD! It is best to purchase unrefined raw shea butter thats unscented as you know that is more organic. Shea Butter is a good by if you ask me as it's possible to use as it is and can also be used in different ways including in your hair. 

 organic shea butter



Organic Glycerin
 You then want to add some Glycerin to the Shea Butter to kick up a well hydrating mix. There are organic glycerin on the market like Sky Organics Vegetable Glycerine and I’m pretty sure you can find others of your interest by just browsing the web or visiting local organic stores. Note: You can use a mixer to combine all the ingredients with the Shea Butter.

Organic Glycerin


Olive Oil
 Now you want to grab some organic olive oil or another oil of your choice like almond oil for example. The purpose of the oil is to act as a sealant, which means it keeps all the good moisture from the shea butter and glycerine into the skin and not just on the surface of the skin. Having an oil base is essential.



Essential Oil
 We make it a bit more fun with using an essential oil. Oils like lavender oil, lemongrass oil, rose oil, peppermint oil etc. The essential oil is to add a little natural scent/fragrance to the whole mix and to give a relaxing feeling. This is totally optional.



Rose Water
 Another option is rose water which is scented water made from rose petals, if you want to option out of an essential oil.



 Waahla! You have the perfect natural body cream to get rid of dry skin naturally during winter. Healthy and long lasting all at once. But among all this, remember to stay hydrated also. Drink lots of water during the day. If you're not hydrated on the inside the odds are thin that your skin would show any improvement.

 Give it a try and let me know in the comments how it went for you or if you have ever tried a similar combination and how it worked out.



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Saturday, 27 October 2018

Swedish for Beginners: Tips for Teaching Yourself Swedish

October 27, 2018 0 Comments



I never had a reason for learning Swedish until I met my boyfriend 3 years ago. During my childhood in Jamaica, I was taught Spanish from as young as 6 all the way up to high school for 5 years as it was compulsory at the schools I attended. I always found Spanish challenging though. It was so hard for me to follow during classes, presentations etc. Luckily, at the end of high school I managed to pass the final exams that are held throughout the Caribbean (yay!) 

 Fast forward to when I came to Sweden.. Oh man, such a lovely and beautiful place! Not only am I not hearing just my boyfriend speak the language, I was also hearing it all around me! Just so beautiful how the words chorused from their mouths. Swedish sounds as if you are singing some would say and I have to agree! 

 After being in Sweden for a while visiting my boyfriend last year, it was then it hit me that I have to learn Swedish if I really want to start a life with my boyfriend and integrate within the Swedish society. Hence, I started doing my research on ways I could learn this language on MY OWN (and a little of his help) since I had no rights to study in Sweden during a visit unless I payed a tutor. 

This is my second year teaching myself self Swedish and I will share the tips with you that I have found and is using at the moment to further my knowledge. 


*(I took these steps in this actual order)




STEPS TO TEACHING YOURSELF SWEDISH:



1.      Having My Boyfriend Write Down the Swedish Alphabet 
swedish alphabet
 This was the very first step I took. One day my boyfriend wrote down the letters of the alphabet and a few other words on a small piece of paper and offered to do a recording of him saying the letters so I could listen every now and then. I even took that paper back home to Jamaica when I left. My advice to you is to start with the alphabet if you are at the very first stages of learning swedish. Focus on the letters Ä, Ã… and Ö. These letters can be tricky but becomes easier the more you practice to say them.





2.      Learning Swedish

learning swedish 
 
 I found this website called Learning Swedish. A Swedish Course developed and provided by The Swedish Institute. I must say this opened up the way for me a little more as a beginner. It taught me how to say the basic things that I would come across in everyday life. It also gave me more insight on the alphabet and how to count in Swedish. After every course, you are given a small quiz to test on how much you have learned. The best part is, it's all FREE!





3.      Duolingo 

learn swedish with duolingo 
 
 My brother-in-law recommended Duolingo to me during a period when he was teaching himself an Asian language. I downloaded the app and went straight to learning Swedish! Duolingo is a fun and interactive app for learning a new language. It teaches you mostly vocabulary and comes with a voice that help you to pronounce the words correctly. There are also clubs that you can join with other people who are learning the same language as you to share insights and advice. Duolingo is definitely a go for beginners in swedish if you want to make learning a bit more fun.






4.      SVT (Sveriges Television/ Sweden’s Television)

learn swedish with svt 

 I was having a hard time to really get the flow of words from the Swedes so I started watching SVT, the local tv station in Sweden to adjust to how the language sounds on a continuous pattern. Having subtitles is a good way to follow-up and to connect the swedish words to what they translate to in english. 
Note: SVT is not accessible to those who live outside of Sweden.





    5.      Music
learn swedish with swedish music

 I started listening to Swedish music, genres that I liked. I have a few favourites like Molly Sanden, Sabina Ddumba and Tommy Nilsson that I listen. I google the swedish lyrics and the translated version to get an understanding of what they sing about. The fun part is, when you remember the words and start to sing along you realise how well you start to pronounce the words as the swedes do.





     6.      A Concise Swedish Grammar

 I started to realise that even though I was building my vocabulary, I didn’t know how to formulate a proper sentence and the rules to formulating a sentence. So I felt I needed something more since I don’t have a real teacher. Then I thought, a book perhaps! I came across a book called A Concise Swedish Grammar that's written in english (other languages also like French, Somalian, German etc) and thought to myself, why not give this book a try? I am now somewhat at intermediate level in Swedish and I don't think it would've been possible without this book. It.. is.. worth.. your time of learning swedish. This books teaches you the full-on rules of almost everything in swedish. How to make sentences, when to use certain words, etc. Since my boyfriend is currently a university student, I took the advantage of following him to school and borrow the book in their library to read while I’m there. I would sometimes take the book home when I can to read and learn at my comfort. While reading this book I also combined Duolingo to learn more words as I learned the rules to speaking swedish.
learn swedish with A concise swedish grammar





How Is My Swedish Today? You may ask..


 Well, I am still working on my swedish of course if I want to get closer to being fluent. I am trying to go further by actually trying to read a novel called ”Expert PÃ¥ Rodna by Katarina Von Bredow” that i bought at a second hand store in Södermalm. It is not easy but I do realise that I am building my vocabulary even more and understanding the way Swedes talk.If you are at the beginner/intermediate stage and would like to try reading a book, I suggest you start out with a kid’s/teenager’s level book. If you want to test your brain even more, try reading a pocket-book in a genre that you like. Don’t forget your pencil to underline phrases and jot down new words while you read. The People's Dictionary and Google Translate are awesome for translation of words and phrases while you read.
expert på rodna

tips to learn swedish





Fears While Learning the Swedish Language

 I would say my biggest fear with the langauge is to actually speak the language to people other than my boyfriend. I have this fear of messing up as I want to give full respect to the locals when I attempt to speak their language. I am working on it though.😊
  I also advice you to put what your learn into practice. Talk more and try to start or join a conversation with the little that you know. It will be for the better at the end of the day


Good Luck With Your Swedish!
Lycka Till Med Din Svenska!


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Wednesday, 24 October 2018

Bloody Beetroot Drink Recipe: Halloween Drink

October 24, 2018 1 Comments

beet root drink for halloween

 Born and raised in Jamaica, having beetroot drink was quite normal for me. As a matter of fact, I loved it as a kid growing up. However, when I came to Sweden I realized that beetroot drink wasn’t so common. It was common though to have pickled beetroot along with meals. I found it a bit odd that I’ve never thought that if I could drink it, perhaps I could eat it also! Haha 

Well well...

 So I was making beet root juice today for my boyfriend and I, and  thought of how the look and texture it reminds me of blood.. then guess what? It hit me that, oh! It’s Halloween season! Why not share the recipe with you guys who perhaps will be celebrating halloween? 

Therefore, I’m happy to share this recipe with you! 

(Serves two people) 

Ingredients:
  • 2 or 3 big beetroots 
  • Ginger
  • Water 
  • Carrot (optional) 
  • Brown sugar (optional)

What You Will Need:
  • Blender 
  • Strained/Seive 
  • Spoon 
  • Big pot or bowl
  • Juice container 

Do Like This:

1. Wash and peel beetroots.
2. If you’re using carrots, wash and scrape also.
3. Wash and strip ginger.
4. Place all ingredients into the blender.
5. Add 4/5 litres of water.


6. Blend all ingredients until smooth.
7. Place the strainer/seive over the bowl and pour in blended ingredients into the strainer/seive to strain.
8. Use back of the spoon to squeeze excess juice from the strainer/seive.
 
9. Add sugar for taste (optional).
 
10. Pour juice into a juice container for easy storage and place into the refrigerator.

 I hope you will enjoy this drink! It’s always good to try something new and the fact that beetroot has so many health benefits it wouldn't hurt to have this drink every now and then and not just when it’s Halloween.

beet root drink



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Friday, 14 September 2018

8 Reasons Why Women Pull Away From A Relationship

September 14, 2018 3 Comments
Previously, I have written a post about 8 Ways You Might Be Pushing Him Away.  As you may know, whenever I do a post that is written to specifically target the female audience, I always like to go back to the drawing board and also write another post that correlates to target the male audience. Hence, I have came to the topic of 8 reasons why women pull away from a relationship.

It is not always the easiest to see your relationship drifting away and you can't come to the conclusion of why it is happening. Have you ever stopped to think that maybe it's you that's doing something wrong? Or maybe also you aren't doing the right things? 

Reasons why women pull away


Well this is where I come in to help...

Yeah, I am aware that women aren't always the easiest to understand or the easiest to satisfy, but once you've grown to know her day by day the easier it is for you to figure things out. Besides, if you have put in all the effort to get to know this girl or build the relationship then why not try to put in the effort to make it last? 


Enough chitchatting and lets get right into it! 

8 REASONS WHY WOMEN PULL AWAY FROM A RELATIONSHIP

1. Lack Of Trust 
Without trust, a relationship is what I would call "lifeless." In order for a relationship to survive and for your girlfriend to be around longer there has to be some trust involved. Try to help her implement ways in which you think could help you to trust her more than you usually do or use to do. 

2. Unable To Communicate Well
It can become daunting for her when she tries to communicate with you but doesn't get much back in return. Try to be a bit more receptive. Always keep an open ear and verbal mouth. 

3. Too Self-Centered
If you want to push your girl more towards the relationship and not away from it, then don't make it seem as if the world revolves around you. Remember that she matters also. Make her feel that she has a purpose in the relationship. Remain curious about her and not too much about yourself. 

4. Over Analyzing Her Actions 
Not every move that she make means she's "up to something." If you remain curious about her doings this is where communication becomes important again. Instead of being aggressive and analyzing incorrectly, why not talk about how you feel about the situation over a cup of coffee instead? 

5. Too Possessive and Controlling 
I'm aware some men like to feel in control of the relationship and the master of most things. Which is fine... it really can be fine. Speaking from a personal view I like a dominant man who takes charge but it can get out of hand if done incorrectly. Try to understand where your limits are with her in the relationship. At the same time us women like to be in control of certain things also!  

6. Suddenly Became Boring
Where's that spark that was there in the start of the relationship? What a lot of people aren't aware of is that the spark that was used to ignite the fire of that relationship will be needed a few times throughout the entire relationship in order to keep that fire going! Try not to lose focus of that. Also new fun ideas every once in a while I'm pretty sure could be appreciated by her.

7. Inattentive
Pay attention! It can become so frustrating for her when she tries to reach for your attention and you don't turn an eye or an ear. Stay attentive when she talks to you and  try to compliment the little things she does here and there to catch your focus. 

8. Spending Your Time On What Matters The Least
Pause the video game a bit, close the social media apps and try to find out how her day was. As much as your spare time and self time matters, time with her matters too. It's the easiest way for a girl to drift away from the relationship when she feels as if you prioritize things over that shouldn't really matter. Spend time with your girl and make her feel worthy. 






If you see your relationship going down hill or your girlfriend is slowly pulling away from you, then maybe those 8 pointers was probably what you needed to read. Do some self intervention and try to figure out what needs to be done with the help of this post. All it needs sometime in a relationship is a little self acceptance as the ability to recognize where you're going wrong. All the best! 
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