Does The Perfect Relationship Exists?

As from the title, I believe quite a few of us from time to time may ask ourselves this question or furthermore probably discuss it with a friend or best friend. But let's be logical, what on this earth is rather perfect? Maybe a slice of pizza with a lot of cheese with pepperoni evenly distributed? Or a sunny none humid day at the beach, clear blue skies, a cute bikini with well shaved legs, enjoying every moment of the wind blowing and the waves crashing? Maybe that itself is rather perfect. But, let's do a reality check for a minute here...

Fairytales

I first mention this because I believe this might be the number one reason why young girls can most often fantasize "the perfect relationship." Her fairy godmother waves her wand, puts her in a pretty shiny dress and glass slippers so she can meet her Prince Charming, get married and live HAPPILY EVER AFTER! How romantic! A lot of us were fed on these fairytale cartoons and movies as kids while being hidden away from the real world, the truth. But let's be honest, everybody wants a happily ever after and I believe that when it does happen its the most magical thing on earth. I personally value marriage and with this I believe happily ever after does exists. Marriages that has been going a milestone, one that honestly include "death doing two souls apart," a marriage that includes forgiveness and genuine love. But does it mean a nonbinding relationship cannot have a happily ever after? No. Lets just use an old couple for example who has been in a relationship for over 30 years but havent been married. Doesnt it mean they have found something within each other why they are together for so long but havent tied the knots? From my guess I would say that is one you can call a happily ever after relationship. It doesn't include the diamonds, shiny vain stuff rather, it includes pure love and comfort within each other. A comfortable soul is a happy soul.

The Media

The Bachelorette, The Bachelor and trendy sayings like "Relationship Goals" just to name a few, are a part of the top influences for a perfect relationship. As a person who uses social media very often, I can come across these from time to time. Pictures, videos or Memes probably of a man petting his girlfriend's head with a kiss on the forehead and you then see in the caption "relationship goals" Or another example, a man taking his girlfriend out for a special date probably because she was promoted at her work and he wanted to give her a treat. But by seeing the niceness of his gesture it is hashtagged as a relationship goal.
Where I am going with this?
Another couple's relationship may never be your reality. Only you as a person can influence the perfection of your relationship. It's like you could want your partner to take you out on a date to eat the finest steak just because you saw how happy another couple was doing the same while in reality your partner is vegan. Why not try to find ways in which you and your partner can better your relationship and create your own goals instead of feeding off what the media tells you is a perfect relationship¨?

Final Thoughts

Just know, a healthy relationship or marriage includes a lot of forgiveness,  disagreements or fights. And we all can feel from time to time during a fight that it wont work out the way you had hoped. Nobody is perfect hence why a relationship will never be perfect. It is all about accepting your partner for who he/she is and finding ways to work with each other. As my boyfriend will say from time to time "lets meet halfway" or "place yourself in my shoe" while me on the other hand would say "lets just do our individual roles in this relationship, focus on how YOU can contribute to our relationship." Often times I get the relationship goals sayings in my messages. It's good to know that people adore our relationship but the fact is that our pictures and videos may look perfect, but we as a couple aren't. We just understand each other and try our best to keep each other happy. If we can do it so can you! :) But for starters, try to focus on being a good girlfriend/boyfriend not the perfect girlfriend/boyfriend!
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