How can you
know if your partner is the one? Is it
the way he talks to you on a daily basis? Is it the respect that he shows you?
Or maybe the way he holds your hand when you walk?
Whatever it
is, only you can know when it all feels right.
The fact is
that not everyone feels connected to their partner in the same way after the
same amounts of time. For some it takes months, years or possibly a day! This
absence of a strict formula sheet for
love makes even Cupid question his own existence.
Just don’t
think you’re alone, there are numerous girls out there who still havent found
the answer for whether or not their boyfriend is right for them.
Here are
some pointers to reassure you when all those pesky doubts arise!
That Natural Spark- Keep your eyes peeled for this as
it’s probably the most important thing when contemplating your feelings toward
another person. He reminds you of all
your favourite things and a light sparks
up your soul and warms your heart at the mention of his name.
Attention! - There is nearly nothing better than
getting his attention without having to beg for it. If your boyfriend gives you
the minimal amount of attention and it feels like you have to be prying it from
his hands, something could be wrong. You might want to pay closer attention to this but avoid
being sneaky, invasive or disrespectful because this can easily backfire.
He Speaks The Truth- Honesty is invaluable in a
relationship. Some men are a bit rougher around the edges than others which may
sometimes make them appear to be too
blunt. However, it is always good to take the truth for what it is as
opposed to focusing on the mode of delivery rather than the message itself. One
good way to go about this if your beau is more on the frank side is to avoid
asking some questions until you are prepared to receive the answer. Just
remember he is honest because he cares about you.
Family/Friends – At some point in a serious
relationship you will have to meet his family and friends. Does he keep
rescheduling everytime you both made plans to meet his family? Or probably
always finds excuses when you want to hang with him and his friends. Then you
might want to pull out your magnifying glass. This is indication of whether or
not he views your relationship as tempory, or if he is just not ready (probably
if the relationship is fairly new). I believe guys like to wait a while more
than girls before taking steps, one of those steps being mostly to meet the
family. If you know the relationship is bit new just be patient. On the other
hand, have you tried to let him meet your friends or family?
Respect – You don’t want to waste your time if
you rarely see this from him. Bear in mind that respect should always be
reciprocated, so ensure that you are being respectful as well. The way he
speaks to you publicly or privately should be on the same acceptable level. We
know people can sometimes put on a show in public to “one up” so to speak and
make the world have the impression that they are a good person while behind
closed doors it’s the total opposite. If your guy shows you the same level of respect
both indoors and outdoors then that’s a
clear win!
He Checks In – If you have a boyfriend and your
messages or call log is as dry as the Sahara Desert, then something could be
wrong. Maybe he’s one of those persons who claim to be ”busy” 90% of the time.
But there’s a word called ”priority” and if he doesn’t prioritize you then you
could be wasting your time. Though if he constantly checks up on you to see how
your day went, how you are doing, if you’ve ate, then you probably should hold
on to his hand a little tighter.
Future – Not many things can be more
comforting than when you listen to him making his future plans and you are a
part of them. You begin to feel secure and not like your time is being wasted
on something that’s only transient. If a man sees you in his future then you
have stepped foot in the right place. As long as he is an honest man and has
always been plain and open to you about things then you don’t need to overthink
the relationship.
Helping Out – He can help out in various ways;
mentally, physically or emotionally. From time to time us girls definitely need this type of support
system from our partner no matter how ”independent” one can claim to be. It’s
only natural to require a little help form your boyfriend from time to time. It
doesn’t have to be financially but a
little emotional and physical support might be all you need and will definitely
go a long way. If your boyfriend is a supportive person and is always ready to
listen then you have got yourself a gold star.
Today I am
ending on this note;
it is good to know that
it takes two to make a couple. So expecting all these things would be void if
you don’t give or show them in return. He could possibly be wondering if you
are also the one and be discreetly
observing you with all these pointers. Don’t be selfish and also try to be THE
ONE.
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