5 Ways To Not Let Your Past Ruin Your New Relationship.

"When you finally let go of the past something better comes along."

Let's just say 2018 equals new beginnings. New self, new goals, a new partner maybe? Therefore, new expectations. Many of us have at least had shitty experiences with a person we dated in the past. In this case, I will hint on reasons why the past is the past and how to not let it block you from the new light in your new or fairly new relationship.

___1._You Need To Move On!_____

Yes, you need to move on. And this heading will probably reach out to persons who had deep feelings for the person he/she dated previously and still haven't gotten over him/her while in their new relationship. This is an obvious blockage towards your partner in your relationship. This could also be a reason to be out of the current relationship faster than how you got out of your last. Clear your mind and give your partner the attention he or she deserves. Hang out some more and get to know him/her a little better.

___2.__Keep An Open Mind!______

Everyone is not the same hence their will be new behaviours and different mind sets in a new relationship. Try to build that space within ones self to accept changes. Most importantly, remember that you also will be different from who your partner had dated before, so even him/her will have to accept you as a new person. Be selfless, be considerate.

_3._It Is Possible To Trust Again._

Your past relationship might have wrecked you to the bone. You had no trust left. Well, this is an opportunity to start over. A new book with new pages. Which means, try to start you relationship on the right page; page one, be honest and genuine. Give your partner a reason to trust you and hopefully you will get that in return. Go through a few more pages of the book to gain some certainty of the story that you both will be making. After more time spent together and talking with each other, more firm ground for trust will be built. 

_4.Don't Talk About The Past Too Much!

Gah! That moment when you re on a date with a potential partner and most of the date time was spent talking about their EX! Your ex is called an ex for reason. It is no danger talking about your ex from time to time, but just think before speaking. Talk about what is relevant and not something that can put your potential partner down. There will be goods in a past relationship but never talk about it too much or exaggerate. Perhaps talking about the bad things from time to time can let your partner have an idea of your dislikes and will try to implement ways in which he/she can make the new relationship work better for you, for both of you. Let your partner know the ways in which your relationship together is better than the past one. That will give a little life to your relationship and reassurance.

_5. The Past Was Just A Lesson.

Remember, everyone's experience is how one gains knowledge. Let your past be a lesson. Therefore, you will eventually know the wrongs to not carry into your new relationship and the goods to bring in. 

Thanks for stopping by and I hope my tips will be someway beneficial to you. You can find me on Instagram @golden.melannin and Twitter @Lovekemalto. Goodbye until next time!